Meditation can help every area of your life, including your sex life. You’ve no doubt read many different blogs on how to have hotter sex, spice things up, and try new moves. But, how many times have you read about how to be fully present while having sex?
Meditation Keeps Your Mind Engaged During Sex
How many times has your mind wandered during sex? It’s easy to do. There’s so much coming at us from day to day, that our minds are full of to-do lists and distractions. Unfortunately, we bring all of that into other areas of our lives without meaning to.
Practicing mindfulness and meditation can help you to clear your mind when thoughts creep in. To experience closer, more meaningful sex, you need to mentally stay in the game.
Less Stress Means Better Sex
Just because you’re having sex doesn’t mean you aren’t stressed out with life. Stress and anxiety send signals to our brain that causes our body to reduce blood flow. Your sexual organs need more blood flow, so when you restrict it, physical intimacy doesn’t feel as good.
When you meditate, you give your brain the ability to relax and calm itself down. That means better blood flow to the body and greater sensations during intimate times.
Make it a Habit to Meditate
Spend time meditating every day. It’s recommended that you spend about 20 minutes a day on this. If that’s longer than the time you have to put into it, then do what you can. The key is to make it a habit.
Sit in a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted. That will require you putting your phone on silent or leaving it in another room. Relax your body and sit straight on a couch or chair. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. When thoughts come up, re-focus your mind to your body.
How to Meditate During Sex
Of course, meditating on a regular basis is helpful, but don’t forget to practice mindfulness during sex. When you focus on your thoughts and what you are experiencing, it will keep you from allowing anything to hijack your mind. If you aren’t staying focused, you can easily get distracted and miss out on the tremendous experience you are having.
Here’s what you need to do to be mindful during sex:
- Focus on your breathing- take deep, purposeful breaths to relax and fill your body with air.
- Tune in- focus your mind on the sensations you are feeling. Visualize what’s happening and keep your attention on what your body is experiencing.
- Change your thoughts- if your mind starts to wander, intentionally focus your mind on your breathing.
- Close your eyes- you don’t necessarily need to keep your eyes closed the entire time, but it’s a good way to shut off other senses and focus completely on your body.
These are a few things you can do to really engage with your partner. You might be surprised at how much more connected you feel to them.
Embrace the Experience
Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with another human. That’s why you should make it your mission to be fully present in mind and body. Don’t let the stress of the day or your fears keep you from experiencing a deep and meaningful lovemaking session.
Invite your partner to meditate during sex, also. Tell them what you do to enjoy the moment more and be present with them. All of us could use the reminder to stop stressing out and enjoy the moment.